6 Signs You Can’t Handle a Long-Distance Relationship
If you're in a long-distance relationship, you don't need us to tell you it's tough work.
Yes—work is exactly what it is. And not everybody is cut out for it. Truth be told, most people aren't fit for the challenge—so if you're on the brink of getting into a long-distance relationship, you need to majorly evaluate your situation. Are you trusting enough to be cool with your S.O. going to parties without you? Will you be okay if they can't fly out for your birthday? These are all things to consider, and certainly things that will pop up… often.
If the six following truths resonate, you probably can't handle a long-distance relationship:
1. You're a Jealous Person
Would you consider yourself a jealous person? If you saw your S.O. speaking to someone a little too close for comfort, how would it make you feel? Would your claws automatically come out, or would you presume they're having a normal, friendly convo? If the former rings true for you, you likely have a jealous side. In order to survive long distance, you simply can't be jealous. It will lead to many fights, ending in an inevitable break-up.
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2. You're a Bad Texter
In order to have a thriving long-distance relationship, you need to be good at responding to texts and returning calls in a timely manner. If you're glued to your phone all hours of the day, you're golden. But, if you forget to check it for hours on end, you'll need to make a drastic change. When your S.O. tries to get in touch with you or simply see how your day's going, it's only fair to call them back and put their mind at ease. Who knows what dark corners their mind travels to when you don't answer!
3. You Want to Talk All the Time
If number two didn't resonate with you, we're willing to bet this one will. You might need be in constant communication with your S.O.—but, when you put lots of miles in between each other, it makes it that much more difficult to maintain a healthy relationship. Even if you do speak with them on the phone every day, it won't be the same as seeing them in person and being able to physically touch them. Plus, it's unrealistic to expect your partner to have to drop everything just to speak with you at your convenience.
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4. You Have Trust Issues
Having trust issues is typically something you acquire from life's experiences. Whether an event happened in your family life or an ex wronged you in some way, it's truly not that uncommon. One of the best ways to ease your trust issues is by meeting someone who treats you right. Meeting the right person (whether that be a friend or partner) should help you realize that not everyone is manipulative or a liar. If your trust issues don't seem to be going away regardless of who you spend time with, it's going to be very difficult doing long-distance with an S.O.
5. Your Bank Account Is Scarce
Ugh, money—not a fun topic, but one that must be discussed. When you're in a long-distance relationship, it's rather pricey. Whether you have to catch a flight to see your S.O., a train ride or go on a long road-trip, it adds up. If you have a job or a lot of savings, more power to you! But, if you don't have extra cash in your pockets, don't expect to see much of your partner face-to-face. If you don't have the means necessary to see them at least every so often, your relationship is doomed.
6. You Have a Gut-Feeling It Won't Last
Last but not least, if deep-down in your heart you don't think it's going to work out, you should listen to your gut. Perhaps it's your body's way of telling you that you're simply not willing to put in the time and energy to maintaining a healthy long-distance relationship. Or, maybe you just don't think this person is actually worth the fight. Whatever the reason, if it's your own thoughts that led you to this way of thinking, long-distance probably isn't in the cards for you.
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If these truths didn't resonate with you, check out THIS article for the signs that you are ready for a long-distance relationship.