How to Craft the Perfect Breakup Text
Breakups aren't easy, and that goes for both of the parties involved.
Of course, in most situations, the one intimating the breakup has likely accepted the fate of the relationship long before the one getting broken up with. It's important to remember that being the "dumper" during a breakup doesn't make you the villain (unless, of course, you cheated, gaslit your partner or committed another unforgivable sin of the dating world). It does, however, put you in a tough spot—one that requires an even tougher conversation that you have to initiate.
If this is the type of breakup that's better done over text (and mind you, not all are), thankfully you don't have to stumble through it without a little helpful hand. That's where we come in, providing you with some tips on how to craft the perfect breakup text.
Be Straightforward, But Gentle
Short and sweet is best when it comes to a breakup text. While you shouldn't just shoot off an "it's over" text and call it a day, you should avoid over-explaining yourself or leaving too much room for your (now former) partner to question things. Oftentimes, people try so hard to soften the blow of a breakup text that they just leave the other person confused as to whether or not the breakup actually happened, and that's not a successful situation for either person. You don't need to tell the person exactly why you're ending things (this can sometimes be hurtful, rather than helpful) unless they need to know, but you should make it clear that things have ended.
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Acknowledge Their Feelings
Getting broken up with is the worst, even if you both knew that this was coming. Don't try to belittle their feelings or act like what they're experiencing isn't valid. After all, you cared deeply for this person at some point, and that warrants a response that actually acknowledges the validity of what they are now going through.
Don't Play the Victim
Similarly, do not turn the tables on the other person and make it seem like they're the villain. Even if they did exhibit certain behaviors that led to this moment, playing the victim will only make you the real villain of the situation. And if you take things too far, you'll just end up gaslighting, and that's something you should never do to anyone—partner, former partner, friend or otherwise.
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Don't Leave Them on a Cliffhanger
This is real life, not an episode of Riverdale. Don't leave the person you're breaking up with thinking about any what ifs, and especially do not lead them to believe that you might come back around to them in the future (even if that's true). This often can halt the healing process of the person being dumped, and it also keeps them from being able to move on properly. It can feel way too good to know that someone would happily date you at the drop of a pin if you said so, but that's also wildly manipulative and not helpful for either of you. If you need to take a really hard step that will help both of you out in the long run, mute or block them from your social media. It feels harsh, we know, but sometimes, that's what it takes.
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If you're still on the fence about things in general, then you may benefit greatly from clicking HERE to check out our list of signs that you should break up.