7 Things You Should Always Remember If You Think You’ll Be Single Forever
Being single starts to take a toll on you after a while.
When, year after year, your friends enter and exit relationships at the speed of light and you're still all by your lonesome, you start to convince yourself you'll be alone forever.
We're here to remind you that's not the case by sharing a few things to keep in mind whenever those nagging feelings take over.
Don't Compare Your Relationship Status to Others
It's easy to get caught up in your friends' relationships and wonder why you don't have that—especially when some of them have been in multiple relationships and you haven't been in a single one. Remember: Don't compare, it's not fair. Everyone's life path is different. The fact that one of your BFFs can easily find an S.O. and you can't doesn't really mean anything. Sure, you'll feel discouraged by their ability to fall into the arms of a new love faster than you can finish your homework, but don't let it get to you. We're all vastly different people who're on our own paths experiencing things at various rates.
It's an Opportunity to Strengthen the Relationship You Have With Yourself
Being single means you get to spend some quality time getting to know yourself a better. People in relationships don't really have that luxury; they have to juggle spending time on their own with spending time with their S.O. Trust us, that's not an easy balance. But you don't have to worry about any of that, because you're single. We know that word is probably making you cringe or wallow in self-pity, but don't let it. Use your status to get better acquainted with yourself. This will also help you not lose yourself when you do enter a relationship.
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There's Nothing Wrong With You
Say it with us: "There's nothing wrong with me." We know you're convinced you're the problem, but you're not. Sure, there are probably things you could be doing better, but that goes for everyone. Nobody is perfect, so why do you think you have to be, too? The next time someone asks why you're single, please don't say some self-deprecating comment about you being unlovable or note that your appearance has something to do with it. None of those things even remotely contribute to your status. Be nice to yourself, okay?
Leave Your Past in the Past
Just because something hasn't worked out yet, doesn't mean it never will. It's easy to believe that because things have always been a certain way, they'll continue to be that way for the rest of your life. That's not the case. You may have to do things differently, but chances are you likely won't be forever alone.
The important thing here is to not dwell on past bad relationships. Treat them as a learning lesson, rather than something that scares you from every wanting to get close to another human being ever again. We know it's terrifying to do, but that brings us to our next point.
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You Have to Put Yourself Out There
We cannot emphasize enough how important it is to keep putting yourself out there, even if all you've faced thus far is rejection after rejection after rejection. To say it's discouraging would be an understatement, but you can't expect your soulmate to fall out of the sky right into your lap. You have to risk getting hurt to earn an S.O. who'll love you unconditionally.
Don't Force Anything
If and when someone who's interested comes along, don't force anything. We know you'd happily rush into a relationship with the next person who compliments you, but that probably won't lead to anything meaningful. And you'll find yourself trying really hard to make it work, simply because you don't want to go back to the single life. Desperation never looks good on anyone, so we suggest you leave it at home the next time your bestie sets you up on a blind date with one of her S.O.'s pals.
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You Will Find Someone
Bottom line, you're not going to be single forever. We don't know when, where or how you'll meet the love of your life, but we know you'll meet them somehow. Ultimately, you have to believe that, too. Keep putting those positive vibes out there, let the universe work its magic and one day you'll encounter your forever person. Then you'll look back on your single days and laugh about how silly you were to believe you'd never be in the wonderful relationship you are now.
We can't tell you when you'll meet your soulmate, but we can direct you away from being with the wrong person. Click HERE to see the type of guy you shouldn't date, based on your zodiac sign.